13 of things I learned from my past relationships and the movie “Contact”
Alien — Ted (David Morse) : You’re an interesting species, an interesting mix. You’re capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you’re not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we’ve found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other.
Ellie (Jodie Foster) : What happens now?
Alien — Ted (David Morse) : Now? You go home.
Ellie (Jodie Foster) : Home? But I have so many questions. Do we get to come back?
Alien — Ted (David Morse) : This is just the first step, in time you will take another.
Ellie (Jodie Foster) : But… but.. other people need to see what I’ve seen.
Alien — Ted (David Morse) : This is the way it’s been done for billions of years. Small moves Ally, small moves.
Remember the enlightenement seen from the 1997 movie “Contact” at a Beach in Florida? Contact, is of my favorite movies of all times, probably watched it 10 times and can watch it another 10. It’s story was written by Carl Sagan and his wife Ann Druyan, produced by Peter Guber whom I had the chance to meet in Las Vegas at Tony Robbins’ Business Mastery event. It is also the movie that I fell in love with Matthew McConaughey :)
Now, sitting at a Florida Beach, playing with the white, shiny sand and thinking; I am at some level spiritually awakened, met with my higher self alien, I’ve been working on and digging through myself, — mind, body and soul since I was 13. Eventhough all this work built me amazingly strong, compassionate and loving yet, still I do find myself attracting manipulative and stressful relationships. But why? And what happens now?
I am proud of the woman I am becoming through the years. I have transformed immensly. The old me would go to extremes to love, to be kind. New me, knows very well that I am not perfect, neither my partners are and do not commit to a romantic relationship until both parties are aware of the challanges to be worked on respectfully and lovingly.
Now, I’m taking my time to get to know the person and I walk away if the other party is not ready to commit. I respect their transformation time too.
Learned it from the best Alien — “Small moves Ellie, small moves.”
I believe that “Nothing is a coincidence.” Everything and everyone holds a higher meaning and message for us than the ones we percieve with our limited minds. Everyone is a mirror to us, as well as we are to them. As we are enjoying our ride on this planet and becoming aware of ourselves, finding our purpose, we’ve gotta be kind and loving to ourselves and to our partners. If a relationship is ending, best is to be able to leave the other better than the way we found them.
Here are 13 of things I learned from my relationships of 2017:
· Since I am a healer at core, in the past I’ve been attracting karmic relationships, partners that needed a lot of healing.. I paid my bill, time to recieve my food.
· I also used to attract souls that needed to work through similar patterns I’ve had been on. I passed my tests now is the party time for graduation.
· I learned to give permission to myself to be weak and vulnerable.
· I learned to walk away from manipulate and abusive relationships, also men who does not walk their talk.
· I learned to choose wisely whom I will share my presence with since my core energy is feminine, I used to trust, let go and surrender easily.
· I learned to listen to my body conciousness before I commit to a relationship eventhough it looks like a perfect fit to my ideals.
· I learned my worth as a friend, lover and in my profession too. I learned not to settle down for anything less than I deserve. I deserve to be treated well — I can stand up for my values & boundries if needed.
· Even if my partner is giving and loving as me, I come first, I learned to self- love and self-respect more. No more giving away power.
· If things are not working, I learned to take only the % 50 responsibility not %100. Eg: Communication, compromise.
· I am not my partner’s mother, neither coach nor healer.
· I learned that some relationships are simply there to teach me how to honorably let go. Learn, grow, say thank you and move on.
· No one is %100 right or wrong. There is no highway neither my way, maybe “our” way. Build each other not tear down.
· Always trust your intuition. If your gut is ringing bells there must be a good reason why.
Wheter you are in a relationship or going through a bad break up or longing to be in the arms of the one… how ever you are relating to life now, will determine your future love. Why not letting go a bit, not take things that much serious and have fun a little? Let me lead the way; here is a fun trivia for you from the movie Contact.
What is the name of the hotel which Jodie Foster and Matthew McConaughey was having the discussion “science vs god” ?
Hint #1: The “science vs god” scene was shot at hotel’s rooftop which it is famous with it’s spiced champagnes?
Hint #2: The historical hotel was reinvented in 2009 into one of my favorite hotels which there is one in Maldievs, Istanbul and Hollywood too.
Hint #3: Comeeee onnnn. Still need a hint? Oh well — Elvis Presley stayed at this hotel in 70’s under the name “Jon Burrows”.
Are you having fun yet?
